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"I pray that you being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge- that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God."
-Ephesians 3:17-21

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Humbled

This is an excerpt from an email I sent at the end of June. I have debated sharing this story for several months because I don't want anyone to think that we think Harper is 'extra holy' or is better than any other child. As the joke goes, she is the best child I've ever had! ;-) Seriously, though, she has not done this as often over the past several months as she was at that time. However, I think there is an important lesson in her childlike faith. Jesus speaks several times throughout the gospels of 'faith like a child'. I think that as adults we let so much of the world influence our thinking that it is hard for us to revert back to the time of childlike wonder and awe at our awe inspiring God. I honestly believe that all people of faith should question their faith to some degree- a faith that is never tested is naive. BUT once tested we should be so moved by a God that loves us without fail that we do have that child-like wonder for our God. Here is the story:
You know how you never totally understand something until you experience it? Like when people say having a child is the most humbling experience you can have. Well, I know for sure that is true! Usually in the business of coming home, taking Toby out, unloading the car, spending a few minutes with Harper, putting away dishes, starting dinner, eating dinner, cleaning up, getting Harper ready for bed, then getting me ready for bed I don't have a lot of time (or don't make a lot of time) to remember to pray for other people. I even forget most nights that we even have a sponsor child, Abhishek. We even have a picture of him on our fridge to remind us, but I still forget. Harper, however, has been remembering lately. Every day, usually when I am cooking, she sits in front of the fridge, points to his picture, and says "Pray Abhishek". So we say a short prayer for our sweet buddy in India. Today, however, driving home, Harper asked "Pray? Abhishek". My 21 month old has a better memory and a bigger servant heart than I will ever hope to have! I am going to be praying for faith like a child from now on, because this little girl amazes me with her faith! She doesn't want to pray just because she is reminded by seeing a picture or because it is habit to do so before a meal- she actually thinks about this all by herself and wants to pray! I don't know why God has given me such a sweet girl but I am sure thankful for such a blessing! 
I added the alphabet over the woman's face because we are not entirely sure who she is and I don't want to get anyone in trouble! Our sweet Abhi!
So there you go. No excuses. If a 21 month old can do it so can I. So can you. I will strive to live a life worthy of the calling that I have received. Now let's go do it! 


Saturday, September 29, 2012

Two.

Yup, it's official. My baby is two. I am pretty sure being two means I can no longer call her my baby. She has, in fact, been denying the fact that she is a baby for almost 6 months now (if I cradle her in my arms and say in my best baby voice "Are you Mommy's baby?" the response is always 'no'.). Here are the Harper stats:
Height: 33.5 inches
Weight: 26 pounds
Appetite: Ferocious! When people see her eat for the first time they are always shocked at how much she eats!
Academics: Still attending the same daycare. Which they call a "child enrichment program". Which is actually true because Harper can now identify a circle and a heart, count to 10 (rote), say MOST of her ABC's (everyone blurs LMNOP together!), identify A, B, C, D, H, and T, and identify purple, red, orange, and sometimes pink and yellow.
Social: Harper continues to amaze me with her social skills. Which are completely typical but make this Mommy very proud. The other day she introduced Jason and I to one of the servers at Chik-fil-A (patting Jason on the arm "Daddy Jason" then pointing to me "Mommy Meredith"). She is still friendly and says hello to random strangers. I also love that kids don't have judgements about anyone (well, for the most part). No matter how scary or dirty or tough someone might look she happily waves and says hello. Which I think is a great lesson for me. Harper plays well with other children but has some difficulty sharing (we picked up that lovely word "MINE!" from daycare), especially if she thinks the toy is hers. She still has several children (girls) that she prefers and talks about and she even knows her BFF Avery's last name and her parents names! Harper enjoys playing with the other kids at daycare but sometimes is content to play by herself, too.
Motor skills: I finally got to observe Harper's class that she takes at daycare that teaches gross motor skills in a noncompetitive environment. She absolutely loves it and had the biggest grin on her face the whole time! Harper can jump, kick, throw (usually it goes forwards!), catch if you position her hands prior to throwing, climb a ladder (!), climb stairs if she holds a rail or a hand, roll, and generally doesn't STOP moving! She holds crayons well, but often so hard they break (which is entertaining because they she tries to put them back together). We've never tried to have her string anything so I have no clue if she can do that. All other skills are still there that have previously been mentioned.
Speech/Language: I will try to make this brief since I updated on this recently. Harper is using possessives, present progressive, some pronouns, speaking in some 3-4 word utterances, answers basic what and where questions, answers some who and when questions, and generally uses language very well! Some examples of recent sentences are "Daddy truck dirty" (heehee!), "Mommy go over there", "Baby poopy diaper." etc. etc. She puts sentences together in a funny order, "walking man", "running lady". Maybe she will learn Spanish well! ;-) Her articulation is good and she has many of her sounds but her substitutions are funny, Jason becomes Dason, go is dough. All totally age appropriate and sweet. Oh, and she refers to herself in the third person still. Which we have encouraged far too long. But I love hearing her say "Hahpuh go potty" or "Hahpuh eat?".
Favorites: Harper's favorite song right now is probably "Bringing home a baby bumblebee". She says "Ma ma mommy beso powda me" for 'won't my mommy be so proud of me'. She also likes Old MacDonald which she sings "E I E I O. Farmer. Cow. Mooo". When it rains she like to sing "Raining Pouring Old Man" as she calls it. And if she requests that you sing a song for her you better sing it because otherwise you will hear this: "ABCs. Mommy sing it" over and over again. Her favorite toy would probably be one of her baby dolls. It varies week to week. Favorite book would be Hop on Pop or Go Dog Go by Dr. Seuss. Favorite pair of shoes: hot pink crocs. Favorite food: fruit, pasta, cheese crackers (like Goldfish or Cheeze-Its). She also thinks Gigi's cupcakes are her favorite but she has only eaten those twice in her life so....Favorite tv show: the only one she has ever seen: Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Which she maybe watches once a week. If that.
I can not believe I am already posting on 2. Why does time fly by so fast!?!?!?

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Conversations with Harper

Harper walks into the bathroom as I am using the bathroom. "YAY! Good job Mommy!"

Sitting at the breakfast table this morning "Bad bug. Over there. Grandmother kill. No. Daddy kill it."
(remembering when there was a roach and Jason killed it)

On our walk this morning: "Sunshine. BRIGHT LIGHT! More sunshine?"
(She literally screamed "BRIGHT LIGHT" like it was hurting then immediately asked for more!)

Me: Harper what are you eating?
Harper: "Goldfish"
Me: Where did you get those?
Harper: running away eating as fast as she could....
We haven't had any goldfish since yesterday! I guess she had them squirreled away!?!?

(Yesterday, when we were actually eating goldfish as a snack)
Me: The goldfish is swimming into my mouth, see?
Harper: "swimming!"
Me: Yes, the goldfish is swimming in the air!
Harper: "Swim in wawa." Giving me a look that I think we will see a lot when she is 16!

Silly me, of course swimming occurs in water and not in the air!

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Gotcha!

I realize that as of late several of my blogs have been links to other blogs. I am certainly not a professional or terribly gifted writer so I think sharing the wisdom of others that you may otherwise not read is just fine. With that being said my very gifted and nearly professional (she's almost done with seminary!) cousin just posted on her blog and I couldn't help but share this beautiful post. If you've ever considered adoption, read this, she will talk you into it! ;-) Also, keep the kleenex handy...even stone cold me may have had a little moisture in my eye reading the words to her birth mom...

Happy Glad I Gotcha Day

Friday, August 24, 2012

19, 20, 21, 22, 23....

Wow how much has changed just since Harper's 18 month birthday. And by that I mean how much Harper has changed. I really didn't (and don't) intend on doing month by month blog posts about Harper after she turned 1, just every big milestone. But today she is 23 months old and I am blown away by her progress. I am also astutely aware of just how blessed we are that she continues to make progress and continues to grow and develop normally. I know that might sound weird "I'm glad my kid is normal" but the older she gets the harder and harder my job gets (much much more on that later but I still have a lot of praying and thinking to do before I post anything for the world wide web to read), the more empathy I have for parents with kids Harper's age or much much older that are not developing in a way that is typical. Anyway, below are a brief list of things that are new to Harper since her 18 month birthday. I have a feeling with all her birthday festivities I may not get a chance to do a '24' post until later!
- Harper is now talking in short phrases almost exclusively. Her MLU is probably around 2.5, for those of you keeping track of that sort of thing. Some of her longer phrases include "Chloe her home" (meaning her friend from school Chloe is at her house), "Nonnie/Grandmother make it" (referring to something, usually clothes from Nonnie and cards from Grandmother, that they made for her), "Toby up on bed!" (a demand to Toby),  "Daddy, Iluh too" (Daddy I love you too). There are many, many others but this is just a sampling.
-Harper's play is now more elaborate. She will often set up a whole play scenario (usually centered around some 'babies', either dolls or stuffed animals) and will talk aloud about what she is playing. "Hahpuh cooking. Hot food. Too hot. Blow. Eat (insert name of food). Pour tea. Get cup. Stir it up." etc etc. She also as of late has become obsessed enthusiastic about birthdays. She sings the birthday song A LOT in the car, says "Happy Birthday Nonnie" 'it's not Nonnie's birthday' "Happy Birthday Daddy" 'it's not Daddy's birthday' "Happy Birthday Hahpuh!". She pretends birthday party a lot with her play food and sing the birthday song, blow out the candles (when prompted by me), cut the cake, and distribute to all 'guests'. I think a lot of kids in her class at daycare have been having their 2nd birthdays and she has gotten to participate.
-Speaking of daycare, Harper's social skills are really starting to develop. She is mostly outgoing but can be shy when she first enters an environment with a lot of people, especially if a lot of them try to talk with her. She says thank you and please now, still mostly with prompts, but sometimes spontaneously (especially please). She is also beginning to use yes/no ma'am/sir but this is still most prompted as well. She usually says 'no ma'am' spontaneously if I ask "did you poop?". She understands the emotions happy and sad and identifies them in pictures or says when she is happy. This is not something we have ever worked on with her. She is also starting to form attachments to friends. She still seems to like to play with everyone, but she has a special friend at daycare who she talks about a lot and has to hug before she leaves. She also has a good friend in Auburn who goes to our church and they get to hang out a lot. Harper talks about her a lot and even knows her last name! It is fun to see these friendships develop.
-Educational: Harper knows a few letters (A, B, T..for Toby!), can sing her ABC's A-H, L-P, T-V, can count to 2 (usually it goes 1, 2, 5, 8), can recognize red and purple pretty consistently, yellow is emerging, knows the shape circle (which came as a shock to me last weekend when she held up a circle block and declared "circle" then picked up another one and said "other circle"). Most of these things are things that she picked up on her own or they taught her at daycare. It still blows my mind that children can learn things without being explicitly taught. Which is also scary. That means that everything we do they are learning from. NO PRESSURE!
-Motor: Harper is getting better at coloring and holding crayons, though she stills holds them too hard and they break sometimes. She colors on the pictures now, but does not stay in the lines (and I don't expect her to!). She still loves to dance but now it mostly consists of jumping, which is a relatively new skill. She actually gets both feet off the ground! She doesn't walk like a baby anymore, her gait is adult like now (thanks Jason for this observation!). She does still run like a baby/toddler now.
-Feeding: Still a garbage disposal. Her new teachers at daycare are shocked by how much she eats. They report that she knows her limits and she doesn't have to be 'cut off' after 3 servings anymore! Harper eats everything we eat now, with the exception of things that are especially spicy. She loves salsa and spiced food, but not things that seem hot (spicy) to me. Her favorites are fruit (blueberries, watermelon, bananas, etc), pasta, anything with cheese, and brats. That child ate two brats plus two servings of veggies for dinner once! She also has a sweet tooth and asks for popsicles, cupcakes, and ice cream a lot but since we don't usually have that type of food in our house, she doesn't get any!
-One more thing...being the 'evil' parents that we are (if you don't get that then you've missed out on the campaign to keep kids rear facing as long as possible, which is safer and a good idea, we just didn't quite make it to 2) we turned Harper forward facing. Having to travel almost an hour each way every day she was getting very uncomfortable. Not that she is turned around, though, she and I are able to have some good 'conversations' in the car. About how her day was, what she did, etc. These usually consist of me asking lots of questions and her responding with yes or no or 1-2 word responses. Okay, two more things. Potty training. Harper can volitionally pee every time she sits on the potty now (wow she will hate this blog in another 6-8 years). She has stopped pooping in the potty but now almost always tells me before she poops in her diaper. I am not forcing the pooping in the potty. She is usually fairly dry when she wakes up from nap or in the morning. If I stayed home with her I'd probably have her potty trained by now but I doubt she'll tell her daycare teachers that she needs to go.
Sorry to be so lengthy. :-)

Friday, August 3, 2012

Harperisms

Well, as we are sprinting towards 2 (AHHHHH!) I wanted to record for blog posterity some of the cute things Harper says because she is already 'outgrowing' some of them!


1) Doggle- probably our favorite of all time. And we still don't know what it means. And she only says it now if we ask.
2) "Iluh"- Pronounced as one word, but means "I love you"! She goes through the whole family, too "Daddy Iluh! Mommy Iluh! Toby Iluh". Sometimes she says "Iluh too".
3)Tobydog- this is one she has pretty much stopped saying. It's the WAY she says it that is so cute "ToBY dohhhhhg".
4) Dit- means sit. She is pretty bossy (though it is normal for a child her age to learn that she can control certain things in her world and desire to do so....) so she likes to tell us where to sit, "Dit Mommy" while she pats the spot where she wants me to sit.
5) Manu-manu- Watermelon. See video.


6) Mohk- /mok/ for those of you who read IPA. Milk. Often said in a really deep voice! Not sure why!
7) Hahpuh- she sounds so cute saying her own name!
8) 'Hola' and 'animales'- I love that her bilingual toys have taught her some words in Spanish! And she says the word 'animales' better than the word 'animals'.
9) Popbeers- popsicles.....
10) Then there are the standard kid cute ways of saying things, like wawa for water, duice for juice, etc.

When they say kids grown up fast, they sure aren't kidding! It is such a fun ride but you don't want to blink or you'll miss too much!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Heartbroken

Sorry about the quietness on the blog front. I've been working on spending more quality time with Harper and that leaves a lot of chores to do while she naps, which is normally when I blog. Anyway.

So, Jason will tell you. I HATE controversy. I shy away from it whenever possible. Wimp? Maybe. So for me to write ANY word about this whole crazy Chik-fil-A thing is shocking to even me. But I have been so heartbroken at the hurt and anger (out of hurt) that this has created. It breaks my heart to see people passive aggressively and just aggressively lash out on both sides of the 'argument'. When we go at each other out of fear or hate or blind rage it can not lead to anything good. I wish that people today, instead of eating at Chik-fil-A, had stayed home instead and fasted and thought about ways they could improve their own lives. Matthew 7:3 "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?". I can not put in to words what I feel about this, however, my sweet friend Andi (see her blog here) posted this awesome link to a blog by Perry Noble which pretty much sums up what is wrong with this whole situation. Look for the best line- "After looking at this list I would say we are all pretty much screwed unless Jesus intervenes." 
Read me please!
If you read this and you are hurt or offended I really am sorry. I put this link up out of love. 
Oh, and PS- I disagree strongly on one point he made. The 'Oatmeal Cookie Chunk' is NOT the best Ben and Jerry's flavor!

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